The new year is an exciting time, filled with optimism. However, we tend to make resolutions that always seem unsustainable and short-lived. So this time, I want to focus on making changes which are simple yet still have huge benefits for our well-being and are sustainable & lasting.
1 Declutter my life
Our lives are constantly changing. It’s taken me a long time to accept that without fighting and resisting. Change becomes much easier if, periodically we discard some baggage; both physical and mental which we accumulate over time and weigh us down.
Doing such a clearout is analogous to having a big tidy up – say of my study etc. I always feel so much better and energised afterwards. For example, as we move on in our lives, our values also change and therefore our relationships also change; certain people no longer fit into our lives. We no longer enjoy their company, their values no longer match ours etc.
I want to spend my leisure time with friends who share my values and enrich my life rather than just meet up with longstanding people with whom I no longer have anything in common.
2 Reconnect with lost friends
Conversely, there are also some friends who I have not made enough effort to spend time with – except for the odd email and text – I know these are still good friends and I need to make more time to see them! In 2023 I will make much more effort to reconnect with those friends as I know they will enrich my life.
3 Continue to invest in my self-development
If I am to help others, I must also be dedicated towards self-improvement and learning from others. This means continuing to use coaches and therapists who can help me grow and inspire me.
Growth is about being inquisitive and wanting to learn from others...we invest readily in our physical appearance such as in gym memberships, etc but our mental well-being is even more important and we should not be reluctant to invest in people who can enrich our personal development.
4 Show more compassion
Compassion is such an important attribute for well-being, yet it's something I see far too infrequently! However, before I can show more compassion to others, I need to be able to be compassionate towards myself. That means being far less judgmental of myself and allowing myself to just be rather than continuing to push myself relentlessly regardless of my circumstances. It means showing respect for the needs of my body.
5 Develop a daily inspiration list
A great way to uplift our spirits is to listen, read things that inspire us and follow people who inspire – it’s a very effective habit to develop to improve our resilience. Listening to a favourite music track, reading a great quote etc – doing this only takes a few minutes yet the impact and ripple effect from doing this can last the whole day and always has a positive impact on my mood! I’m going to ensure I spend at least 10 minutes each morning on this activity.